I'm
Like seriouslyyy... Andddd URGENTLY! :(
Anyone knows any good one? Any recommendations?
Hmmm.
FYI, I'll be back working on the 14th which is on next Monday! Iskk... The thought of going back to work membuatkan saya agak stress di sini! *sob*
Why??
Kenapa!??
Sebab........................
- Saya tak
sukasampai hati nak hantar si tecik Adzryl kat Nursery sebab dia baru jer masuk 2 months! Kecik sangat lagi... Apa larr yang dia tau time nih. Kang kalau dia merengek, nangis ker apa... Staffs kat Nursery tuh tau ker apa yang dia nak? Tau ker camne nak pujuk dia? Layan dia sama cam me layan dia ker?? Iskk... :(
Will they call me if anything happens?- Saya tak berapa trust orang2 kat kawasan nih. Taktau apsal, tapi susah sket nak trust people/strangers! FYI, we're staying in Taman Pinggiran Putra, Seri Kembangan.
- Saya prefer nak hantar Adzryl kat Babysitter (eventhough dah banyak cerita tak best pasal babysitter nih, tapi kena tawakal jer lah). Sebab apa? Sebab selalunya babysitter tak jaga ramai budak or babies. Senang sket dia leh concentrate more on my Baby! Huhu.
- I'm sooo frustated with one of my neig*bo*rs. Pasal apa? Sebab dia berdolak dalik nak jaga my Baby! :( Tapi now dia ada valid reason. Her Mom is sick so dia akan balik kampung selalu, jadinya susah sket laa nak jaga my Baby. Oh-kayyy... Reason accepted! But why oh why... Terus I tatau nak hantar si tecik kat mana. Next week nak kerja dah... Alahaiii! Salah I jugak nih ala2 last minute nak confirmkan with my neigh*bo*r tu. :(
- Stay with either Babysitter or kat Nursery, banyak yang saya dok fikirkan. Bersih ker tempat tu? Hygenic tak? Agak2 Islamic sikit tak? Hmm. Flexible hours tak?
- I need a Nursery/Babysitter yang ada "flexible hours". Yer lah. Me nih kerja tak serupa orang lain yang keje "8/9 to 5" tu. I work following the UK hours. Eventhough only on weekdays, but the earliest shift will be at 15:00 and the latest will be at 17:00. Haa! Balik keje pulak the earliest is at 00:00 and paling lambat at 02:00. Imagine that!!! Now tell me, sape faham my situation? :( Kat mana ada tempat or orang yang leh jaga waktu2 tu? *pening2*
- I nak hantar Adzryl for half a day jer which is from 14:00 (2pm) till hopefully paling lambat after Isyak'. No no! I cuma boleh "hantar" jer si tecik nih, yang akan ambil balik is his Daddy. Being a SE kat satu kilang Jepun nih, dia keje bukan cam orang lain. Nama jer working hours 8-to-6 (I think so!) tapi jangan haraplah dia nak balik awal. Keje dia tuh meng'stress'kan isterinya nih. Ntah macam2 busynya kat kilang tu. Memang tak dok diam lah dia kat sana. Dok gerak sana sini, meeting sana sini. Agaknya kalau naik jadik AM plak pasni, sure makin busy! Haihh... Ehh! Dah lari topic! Ter'emo di situ. Hehe! :P Hmmm. Back to the issue... Kiranya, I plan to send Adzryl to the Nursery or to the Babysitter at 14:00 (2pm) and his Daddy will pick him up pukul 6 lebih (which I really doubt that!) or slightly before or after Isyak'. Kira half a day lah kan? Hmmmmm.
And yang paling paling palinggg buat saya pening dan makin stress adalah pasal BF!! :(
Yes, I did say previously that I don't want to discuss issue2 BF kat sini (due to no specific reason) tapi kali ni nak tulis jugak! Bukan apa, tatau dah nak lepaskan rasa kat mana. Bila tulis sini, rasa lega sket! Huhuhu... :(
Actually, my BM cukup untuk my Baby kalau I direct BF. Tapi bila pump or nak buat stock, rasanya tak cukup!! :( I tried to squeeze my time untuk pump, tapi maybe I nih tak reti bahagikan masa kot... Sure tak dapat!! I mean, bila I mula nak pump jer... Adzryl sure bangun dari tido, merengek or it's his feeding time! Kalau nak pump lepas dia BF, confirm susu dapat sikittt jer. 1oz?? 2oz?? Ohh... Sedihnyaaa! I've tried both manual & electronic pumps, it's still the same. How mommies, how?? Kalau hantar kat Babysitter or Nursery, camne nak kasi my Baby kenyang with my own milk?? Kalau my EBM stock tak cukup lagi, then HOW!?? :(
FYI, I'm sooo not ready to feed FM to my Baby. Tatau napa! Degil sangat kot I nih... Sanggup biar Baby bergayut lama2 kat I dari kasi FM. Hishhh. Teruk kan I? Am I a bad Mummy? Ehh. I tak kata yang kalau kasi FM tuh terus jadik "Bad Mummy"... Tapi I rasa I'm one sebab until now I still can't collect enough EBM for my Baby. So far, apa yang I dah ada just cukup2 untuk 2, 3 days jer. See.......... That bad!! Not enough, Anita!!! :( Huhuhu. I wish I don't have to work so that I can direct BF my little Adzryl, anytime and anywhere!! :(
So yeah, itu lah another problem saya! Pasal tak cukup EBM before nak keje balik nih. I know I'm going to cry myself out when I've to feed him with FM. Sekarang pun kalau dok bergolek or tengah BF him, I always imagine myself dok jauh ngan dia and during feeding time, dia minum FM and bukan my milk! Ohh... That always bring tears to my eyes, you know!! Tatau nak describe camne feeling sayu tuh... Rasa sedih sangat sangat sangat bila terfikir kemungkinan yang I akan mengalah dan kasi Adzryl FM seawal umur dia sekarang. Sedihnya... :(
Hmmm.
Nevertheless, I hate to tell you this but... We might go and find the smallest FM tin by this weekend. But should I train him to drink it before I start work? Or can I just provide the FM tin to his Babysitter or Nursery for EMERGENCY USE!?? I repeat, for EMERGENCY USE ONLY!! Ohh! I seriously don't know... :(
Hmmm. Insya Allah I will try my very best to pump my milk once I start back work. Please pray for me! Semoga rezeki my Adzryl murah... *amen*
Meanwhile people, what should I do now?
Babysitter??...
...or Nursery??HELP & ADVICE are really needed here... Thanks!
P.S. I'm sooo tense and stress sampai sekarang nih dok fikir nak berhenti kerja terus jer!! And meantime, before I can find the suitable Babysitter or Nursery for my little Adzryl, rasa nak amik Unpaid Leave jer! Yesss, to that extend! *sigh* :(
***Note: All pictures are from Google.com.
20 comments:
owh..stressnye rase bace entry neh..
sbr ek anita
;\ tu je mampu tolong
Oh dear.. u pressure urself too much.. i tak tahu org lain.. but for me, ikutlah kemampuan kita... mula2 dulu mmg i planned to exclusive bf.. but if tak boleh and dan usaha banyak kali, i pasrah jer.. and now, hasil dr slow2 i tue dan dengan nasihat org lain yg ckp jgnlah terlalu pressure diri sdiri, qaira dah blh bf...
babe,
all i can say is redha je..i send Mia to nursery when shes 2 month old jugak.alhamdullilah she doin fine..still exclusively bf.its true i did collect a lots of frozen ebm(about 150x4oz alread)..tapi i never gave Mia those frozen ebm coz i still manage to give her the fresh one everyday..keep on pumping after bf..i pun everytime pump dpt 2oz..but sikit2 lama2 jd bukit..so no excuse klu takde stock takleh continue breast milk.baby under 6 month should receive fresh ebm sbb yg dah frozen tu xde immunization lg..trust ursef u can do it..about the nursery tu,their service usually until 7pm..lepas tu dah kira ot
sabar... I dulu mcm u masa awal2 i buat bizz, maid lari. I takde option left except hantar hariz to the nursery nearby. Memang kite x sure ok ke tak.
then bila hantar hariz kat sana kejap2 dia asek sakit je memanjang. abes org tuduh i mak x pandai jaga anak.
Sib baik la Allah answered my prayer, i found a good babysitter staying nearby our house.
Alhamdullilah til today we trust her. Hariz pun x nangis every time i hantar dia. He seems happy! siap kadang2 tido terus kat sana. huhuhu best!
Wish u gud luck. But u kene la berhati2 bila nak pilih baby sitter as well. sbb u tak kenal org tu. Tak sure dia ni suka bdk ke x. gi inspect rumah dia dulu etc
nit smbg cuti lar smpai dpt babysitter yg bagus...sab pun start keje 14hb,tp sab smbg cuti mayb smpai lps raya,sbb rania skrng tgh merengek jer,x smpai hati plak nk tnggl kan dia even mak sab yg jg...satu lg kesian dkt my mum sbb nk jg 3 cucu skali...psl BF tue,skrng sab bg rania FM jer..sab punye BM mmg sgt2 x ckp utk rania,kesian tgk dia merengek sbb x kenyang...terpaksa jugak bg FM..tp btl lar,biler pikir nk msk keje blk tue,sgt2 stress rsnye...
hopefully nit dpt good babysitter ok...
kak nita, don't stress yourself too much about the BM vs. FM thingy. it's A-ok to give in to FM cos as long as your baby is full, happy and healthy, nothing else matters right?
i pun eventhough stock byk, tp skrg makin kurang. but i dont wanna push myself too hard cos i know i've done my best and if takde rezeki, i kena carik option lain gak.
good luck abt the baby sitter or nursery issue. hope adzryl will be in good hands.
hi kak nita,
jst to share my experience.. at first my milk pun tak byk mana, but lama2 dia akan byk dgn sendirinya. dont stress k.. smbil nyusu tu pump la yang sebelah lagi. it might help.
lg satu, amalkan makan kurma dan kerap minum air masak, ianya akan membantu banyakkan susu ibu. inshaAllah. :)
babe, i remember when i was as stress as u masa carik nursery around shah alam. smpai nangis2 la, siap tekad nak jadi SAHM. every week i went hunting with my mom, dekat sebulan jugak la. at last, ada jugak 1 nursery yg i suka bcoz it's clean, the caretakers are really good and xramai babies. i'm so grateful to have found that nursery.. don't give up, have faith that u'll find the perfect one! i started sending aleesya when she was almost 3 months (sebab i govt, cuti maternity 3 bulan) i think it's pretty much the same pun.. the principal made me jot down some important things like alesya's habits, her feeding time, her alergies (if any) for their reference. i think in ur case, baik u carik babysitter yg u dah lama kenal (say, relative) sebab u'll be sending at odd hours kan.. don't worry too much.. if u need to talk, i'm just a call/sms away.. good luck babe!
nita,if u kenal that babysitter-then u bole send to babysitter.
if not-better nursery tp cari yg bersih2 sikit..kene selalu pantau :-)
and dun worry,slalunye cekgu2 kat nursery tu dia akan tanya apa habit bb kita..u pon kene slalu2 get update from them + pi terjah ke kadang2..
all the best!
Fuhh..tak tau camne nk start.Hm..About babysitter vs nursery, 2-2 ada pros n cons.I think u should cuti lagi untuk cari nursery or babysitter yang betul2 sesuai.Itu penting!!Bukan senang nak jaga baby..benda simple macam tak burpkan baby pun sangat membahayakan baby kita..lagilah soal cleanliness etc...
I lagilah, tak sambung cuti pun.Ingatkan nak amik unpaid leave sebab tak sampai hati nak tinggalkan Ayra..;-(..Tapi sampai bila ar pulak nak berkepit dengan I..nanti dah terlalu lama, nak tinggal lagi susah..Sebenarnya masa tu I dah jumpa the right babysitter for Ayra, but at last I tinggalkan Ayra with my mom kat rumah jek(my parents stay with us)..tak sampai hati nak hangkut dia pagi2 g rumah orang/nursery, petang g amik.kalau balik lambat, Ayra pun lambat amik..;-(...n my mother's maid pun tolong jagakan..Tu pun everyday,I kene tanya my mom mcmana Ayra, mcmana maid tu jaga, burpkan Ayra ke tak, how she warm up EBM stock..tu pun still lagi tak memuaskan hati I sebab maid tu ikut cara dia jek..So lessonnya, kalau u dah jumpa pun dengan the right babysitter/nursery, jgn lupa buat checkup everyday..baby takleh nak ckp if anything going wrong with them..Lagipun u keje odd hours..kene ada orang jaga yang betul2 memahami..
Pasal susu tu, semua tu rezeki.We try our best kan??..keep on pumping Anita..tak bnyk pun takpe..nanti u dah start keje, try pump at least once..kalau boleh 2 kali..mcm i buat..n bila balik rumah, I bagi direct BF kat Ayra..bagi dia sebelah jek n sebelah simpan untuk buat EBM stock..before u pegi keje pun boleh pump sekali..see how it goes..kalau tak cukup jugak, tak salah bg FM..but itu usaha yang terakhir..yang penting, jgn pressure2 sangat..nanti susu lagi tak kuar..ok??mommy yg BF takleh tension2..kita memang kalau boleh nak bg our baby BM..kalau kita dah usaha,but kalau rezeki mungkin sampai 2-3 bulan jek, itu pun dah cukup..yang penting Adzryl sihat..Ingat, keep on pumping..jaga makan..sikit pun takpe, janji pump ok??
Good luck..
erm..huda pun x sure nak kate bagaimana..
no experience bout this..tp doa2 la moga ada bbsitter yg sudi nak jaga adzryl :)
ur prob pasal bf same as mine.direct feeding cukup tapi bila pump dpt skit. Bila masuk keje stok xde..just dpt supply 4bottles of 3oz for the 1st day keje so mmg kena top up ngn FM..but after 2 weeks keje ngn maintain pumping session susu makin byk bila di pump. tapi pump hari ini guna utk esok.
jgn stress sbb ia akan effect milk supply..(ingatan utk diri sendiri jugak)..huhuhu..
all the best Anita!!
yup, ariba is right, keep on pumping walaupun sket. mommies tend to stress out bila pump sket, i did too.. sampai kengkadang menghempas pump sebab yang keluar sket sgt... but always hold to "sikit2 lama jadi bukit".. stress wont give you any good either dear..
pasal nursery yang flexible, lagenda nursery tuh 24 hrs nursery. Ada cara bayaran dia. If you wanna look for nursery, ask for permission to look around the area. Mana baby tidur, ask everything you wanna ask. Even you rasa soklan bodoh sekali pun. Better pergi masa weekdays masa derang tengah jaga baby. Cakap I nak tengok how u bath the baby, how you feed the baby and etc. Sorang cikgu jaga berapa baby. I think 3 baby is the max la.
Go visit as much nursery as possible. Tapi better nursery yang berdaftar dengan JKM. Ni list Nursery di selangor yang berdaftar, last update on 27 August 2009. http://www.jkm.gov.my/jkm/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=160&Itemid=513&lang=ms
-- dear sori semalam tak perasan u kat luar, memang tak dgr ape pun. sms and call pun x perasan sebab phone on silent mode. what's up?
nita...mmg perit kan.dah 2 bulan duduk dgn our baby tiba2 nak kena tinggal half a day.rindu,worried...mcm2 benda kt kepala...though i dun understand how u feel tp i feel u bab BF tu.mmg nak nangis bila fikir nk bg dia FM for the 1st time kan...sedihhhh...rasa mcm xberkemampuan.dlm forum susu ibu, dia kata lepas BF baby, pam jugak,sikit pun xpe.tp dia galakkan our susu lagi banyak.plus nnti kt office rajin2 la pump every 2 hours.susu plg banyak time 12 to 6 am.so time tu kenalah rajin n tabah mengepam susu.wpon ngantuk.huaaarrrrggghhhh....pasal babysitter tu kan..ill ask my stepmom.dia ada tadika.and her also nursery for babies dulu kt area serdang.but im not sure la skrg ni mcmana since dia dah xjaga the places.dia tgk2 je.i pon xde tanya2 dia.so ill ask her then ill let u know k!!will try to help
knits, aku dah mintak tlg mak aku carikan. but 2-3hari ni kitorg bz, sbb adik aku admitted for his knee surgery. nnt aku mintakkan number, ko bole kontek sndiri kan
salam anita
i cant help u on BF coz i x dpt nk bf my kira lg dah..sob..sob
based on my xperience..i prefer bbsitter than nursery
i had a tough time too..1st ingat nk htr kt nursery tp survey 2-3 nursery x berkenan langsung bcoz x bersih, ramai budak, penjaga² dia muda gile...mcm xde xperience nk jg baby
at last decided on bbsitter..mmglah x kenal but till today im really grateful am sending my kira to her..she's xperienced, clean, neat n so motherly
but i agree there r pros n cons on both sides..tgklah mane ok for u
gud luck in ur search babe!
:( sedih i bace entri u ni nita. Mcm sgt memahami kestressan mu itu. Hanya doa yg dpt hanie beri. Be strong, insyaallah Allah permudahkan jalan
erk..i tatau nak cakap ape la beb.
sebab i pun dalam dilema yang sama dengan u,..i dah tanya la few babysitter yang bleh jaga rayyan but hey,,setakat jaga kan..ramai yang boleh..tp yang bebetul punya tu..i pun taknak babysitter tu ada lagi budak kecik yang dorang jaga, kalau boleh jaga rayyan sorang je..full attention kan.kalau ada budak lain..kang dok bising la,,memain sana sini la..kang macam macam masalah pulak
and yes, i blom pegi keje lagi!!! repeat BLOM PEGI KEJE!!
and last but not least, next week bawak baby pegi keje.habis cerita.
pasal susu tu, i takde pump so kalau i tak buat keje apa apa mmg direct BF, kalau i dok buat keje kat rumah or i kena keluar beli barang.,i tggl bb dengan my mom..i bagi FM, and i did ask his paed pasal penyusuan, dia cakap takpe,siang bagi susu tin, malam bf..BM kering kalau tak bagi langsung je..tp nak buat cam mana..harus jugak la bagi..kalau tak cam susah.kalau u bagi stock and babysitter u pandai nak cairkan susu tu and bagi suam ok la..kalau dia bagi bm tu yang sejuk ke..lagi sakit hati kan..sabar yer..
pelok pelok..kiss kiss
Salam...sabar nit..alhamdulilah fariza punya EBM banyak dah dekat 50 x 4oz.hari2 g keja pun pam dekat ofis 3bottel x 4oz.lebih dr cukup dr ape yg Amir perlu.ok....ni ape yg fariza amalkan dari dlm pantang lg la untuk tambah susu.
1) makan sayur bayam, buat tumis air tu,
2) minum air masak banyak and makan biar lebih ( klu nk bg BF jangan pikir badan naik nnt..pikir mkn untuk baby, tp jgn la melantak..hehehe)
3) jus pegaga (tambah air gula heheh)
4) makan pil phaytonatal nonaroguy.
dalam pantang fariza x minum susu n soya pun..entah xlalu skrang je bole minum susu n soya.tp makan nasi ok.
bila pam tu igt kat baby niat nk bg susu badan " manis dari syurga" insyaAllah...
cuba berlatih dekat rumah masa nit kerja bg susu perah....
untuk babysitter or nursery tu...semoga dapat yang terbaik..buat sementara ni cuti tanpa gaji dulu laa klu bole..(sebenarnya masa baca entry tu..klu fariza duk tempat ni berhenti keja je jawabnye..hehehe)
ok.. good luck
I vote for babysitter...=)
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